Why is it that people like to complain when they don't need to and when you could even want to pay them to complain, they wouldn't!
It is quite confusing!
I do something...or I make something happen...you will more likely find something to complain about...after you say thank you...if you say thank you.
Someone does something...or makes something happen...or something just happens...it is sort of irritating you......you will more likely not find words to complain or state your case or maybe you will not even think of finding those words.
How is that?
Possibly you like to seem like an observer/perceiver on one end and a 'peace-maker' or 'peace-advocator' on another.
By you complaining when you dont need to, you are trying to show that you could do better or are better or could have thought better
By you not complaining when you surely need to, you are trying to show that you do not look for people/battles to fight...you do not unnecessarily hurt other people or the emotion around you
In the end, it is all about you and what you are trying to look like
When can it be about the issue at hand and not you?
When shall it be about the issue at hand and not you?
They say small minds discuss people- big minds discuss ideas
I say, small minds are about me and others- big minds are about ideas/issues
It needs to be a full paradigm shift in my thinking
Let me learn to train my mind to be more about issues and not me or anyone else
Let me empower myself to notice my small-mindedness at times
Let me empower others to notice their small-mindedness at times
Speak when you need to as that is the only way you make a difference.
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These thoughts are from this weekend when I wondered why someone did not speak when things were obviously not done fairly; when someone complained about something that had been done instead of giving even the slightest acknowledgement. I definitely realise that I do this a number of times as well. I am looking in the mirror...and hoping to help others notice this mirror as well. This mirror needs big minds.
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